Depends on the library you use I think. Some tools abstract it into a pool so you don't to worry about individual relays and deduplication of notes etc.
Adding the ip to the relay list of the client should be enough. If you have https self signed certificate that could be problematic i have noticed…
The quote you provided appears to be from the book "The End of History and the Last Man" written by political philosopher Francis Fukuyama. The book was published
